Pretty much why Brutal Honesty doesn’t have many friends. And There are times we have to let go of certain people, not because we don’t care, but because they don’t.
now im almost in tears because of how just… accurate this is….
I’ve gone through so many many moments in my life with people just like this and I know exactly what this feels like.
There comes a time when you need to let go - I’ve dealt with people that I’ve invested so much time and effort trying to help them build a sense of motivation and simply want to go somewhere in life, but nothing. I’ve had to call them out and basically distance myself from them because their funk was doing nothing but bringing myself and others down. Maybe my ideas were just never working, maybe this was the real them all along and I never got that…
All I know is what this comic says: that people can only truly help themselves. Even the most empathetic person in the world can’t help someone if they simply don’t want to be helped. They’re unhappy, they clearly need help, but there is no improvement from them at all. They’re still just this bitter person, who is upset and angry. What’s worse is when they start snapping at you and blaming you for their problems because all your ideas maybe weren’t working. There comes a point to help, and a point to back away and let them live how they choose, good or bad.
It’s wrong to bring yourself down like that because you’ve done everything you could to help them and they still haven’t changed. There comes point where you’ve run out of advice or things to say. You have a life to live - it’s fine to want to be a good friend, but there comes a point where you’re investing too much time into their story and you’re letting it get to you down. Recognize that and back away.
It’s not pretty, and I only resort to Brutal Honesty when I have too, but it’s essential, especially with people who lack motivation. Some people need a strong talking-to to get them to wake the hell up, and even then it’s not enough some times.
The point is, remember that you have a life to live. You can’t shoulder someone else’s problems or live their own life form them. It’s fine to want to help someone, but sometimes the best solution, for your sake and theirs, is to just let them go. It’s not pretty, but it’s sometimes the only you really can do.